Dear Abby: Is it my job to pay jobless sister’s rent?

Dear Abby At I am the youngest sister of four siblings We grew up in the turmoil of Dad s alcoholism and hoarding as well as physical and emotional abuse from both our parents One of my sisters June was sexually assaulted by my brother She s now and hasn t worked since she was in her early s She supports herself on Social Safety and a pension from her ex-husband Her ex-husband in recent months passed away and the pension stopped She now expects my sister and me to pay her rent because she s too old to be working anymore Abby June is perfectly capable of getting a part-time job She refuses to apply for anything despite my telling her I will pay her rent for only two more months My other sister Lisa is guilting me by saying we don t want to see her on the street I m about to retire after working years I worked two jobs until I was I m extremely angry about the situation Although I can afford it I don t feel it should be my responsibility because June won t make any effort to help herself Advice Sibling Drama in New York Dear Sibling Drama Schedule a family discussion for yourself and your two sisters At that time tell them you are willing to help June and IF she gets a part-time job you would be willing to pay PART of her rent IF Lisa will split the cost with you Do this only if both your sisters are willing to make it a joint effort Dear Abby My husband and I constantly host every holiday During each holiday before we eat we say a Catholic mealtime prayer because we are religious However not long ago my husband s nieces and nephews who are in their early s stopped participating in the prayer I am OK with that but they talk and mock our prayer while we are praying How can we handle this Our children noticed how inappropriate they were I understand if they don t want to participate but shouldn t they sit quietly and respect us I am against them coming into our home mocking our religion and then putting out their hand for a gift Thanks for any words of wisdom Faithful Hostess in Pennsylvania Dear Hostess Wow Your husband s nieces and nephews behavior is beyond rude If they don t wish to join you in the pre-meal prayer they ABSOLUTELY should be respectful and sit quietly until you are finished When it happens again the first words out of your husband s mouth after Amen should be to TELL them that what they re doing is rude and not appreciated However if he can t bring himself to do that the ball will be in your court DEAR READERS At sundown the first night of Passover begins This major Jewish holiday celebrates the largest part momentous event in Jewish history the liberation of the Jewish people from slavery in Egypt Happy Passover to my readers who observe this vital holiday LOVE ABBY Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA